First–if it’s a relationship you’ve invested in– you probably try to fix it.
But if that doesn’t work, do you wallow in its fall-out debris?
Do you hold grudges? Do you go for payback?
We know that one day, all things–including us– must end. And as we grow older, we see that ‘new and shiny’ doesn’t last. We also know that people aren’t perfect, and some are bad for us. We may have to give up on some relationships.
But I think it’s important that we don’t give up on the miracle of life itself.
To let go of life is counterproductive. Because when one door closes, another will open—if I don’t get bogged down in my own needs, and if I allow myself to notice it is opening.
Most broken relationships are thought of as negatives. But maybe some of them aren’t. There are some relationships that honestly can’t be fixed, and really shouldn’t be pursued any longer. In the long run, the breaking may be a positive thing for us.
Yes, we may need to grieve for awhile, but we ought to be careful that grieving isn’t what we spend the rest of our lives doing. Taking our own eyes off ourselves and shifting them elsewhere—to the need another may have– is what helps us grow in character.
And we should never let go of what will make us a better person, in the eyes of those who love us, and especially in the eyes of God.