What Good is Struggle???

Posted: April 16, 2015 in World On The Edge

butterflies by hotblack via morguefile

butterflies by hotblack via morguefile

Most of us don’t like the connotation of the word, ‘struggle.’ It evokes thoughts of difficulty. We don’t like difficulties.

We don’t like bumpy roads that cause us to lose equilibrium.

We don’t like to climb mountains that exhaust our strength.

We don’t want to swim a channel that seems much too wide for our meager swimming abilities.

Except struggle increases our balance, our muscle, our talents.

Struggle is the fire that hardens the clay of our lives and turns an earthen vessel into something altogether unearthly.

Struggle can produce people who are out of the ordinary, simply because they have had to work hard.
Some of the most commended men and women in history came from a personal struggle with poverty, or loneliness, or a physical setback, and more.

But often, we parents, don’t like to see our children struggle. We want to relieve them of difficulty. We like to ‘fix’ them. We want to save them from anything that hurts–even if they’ve concocted their own unsavory situation.

We should let them know we are there for them. But I think there are times when we shouldn’t be too quick to ‘save’ them. We should allow them to ‘save’ themselves, to strengthen their wings from within.

The moth in a cocoon struggles to get out of it, and by doing so, it grows stronger—strong enough to fly completely away from the cocoon that once tied and bound it.

And there are many children who grow up in extremely difficult circumstances, then struggle to get out, and eventually fly away, too, just like the butterfly.

  1. “Struggle is the fire that hardens the clay of our lives and turns an earthen vessel into something altogether unearthly.” What a line.

    Years ago I received a letter though the mail, inviting me to speak at a conference called: Women Writers: Making the Difference, sponsored by the NC Literary and Historical Association.

    Prior to the event the conference coordinators assigned me this topic to address in my presentation: “The Struggle to Be.” And I was, like, can you say ambiguous?

    Oh, Lord, I’d wish I’d had this post back then; it would’ve given me the perfect framework. If I’d known then what I know now, I’d have opened with that your quote above.


  2. kph52013 says:

    You are so sweet! Love you, Debra!


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