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Having a Dark Night??

Posted: June 4, 2015 in World On The Edge
by greyerbaby, 2015,

by greyerbaby, 2015,

Have you experienced a “dark night of the soul?” Deep depression, a spiritual crisis, the collapse of meaning and purpose in your life, the loss of something, or someone, who meant everything to you?

I have experienced something like that. And I can tell you that it is temporary. You will come out of it. And you may be a better person because of it. You may even be a totally different person than you thought you were.

So, hang on.

Trust in God.

Even if you feel completely alone. Even if you think no person and no thing can help you. Even if you’ve tried everything, but there’s nowhere to go, no one to turn to, and you feel helpless. And even if you think you’re defeated—hang on.

And in the luck of night
In secret places where no other spied
I went without my sight
Without a light to guide
Except the heart that lit me from inside.

It guided me and shone
Surer than noonday sunlight over me,
And lead me to the one
Whom only I could see
Deep in a place where only we could be.
………..two stanzas from Dark Night of the Soul, by Saint John of the Cross

No one else can actually see your dark night. You can create an appearance that all is well, while inside your heart is breaking. At times, I even thought if I had a fatal disease, it would be better than what I was going through–at least it would be apparent to someone. But what I didn’t realize is that I wasn’t alone. Even if I couldn’t see where I was going myself, someone was seeing me along the way. I trusted I would be lead. And I was.

Dark nights are temporary. I can’t stress that enough. On any day— within a minute, or second— what was so dark can take on light again.

You are so loved by God!

Don’t give up. Surrender to divine guidance. And Trust.

marijuana kconnors, 2004

marijuana kconnors, 2004

When you’ve lived a lot of life, you tend to see patterns in generations that follow yours. And of course, if you’re like me, you can’t keep from relaying it.

A danger for young girls today is the same danger their mothers and grandmothers once faced: an attraction to ‘bad boys.’ How that fascination comes to sit in a young mind, I honestly don’t know, but long ago, I remember feeling it myself.

You know a particular boy is bad, that he’s made terrible choices, yet you’re drawn to him. Worse, you think you can change him.

He may tell you he really wants to change, yet he never takes the first step. And then, he talks about the freedom to do whatever he wants, as if that sort of freedom is always good. He tries to make you see that you should want it, too.

But be aware. That kind of freedom is far from good. It’s in disguise. It isn’t really freedom. It’s just another case of addiction to drugs, sex, or cheating, just plain laziness, or maybe even fear of the world itself. In any case, stay away. Bad boys hold nothing but grief for you.

This doesn’t mean that they won’t eventually change–without you, by the way. Many honorable men, even many saints, were first horrible sinners. But often bad boys stay that way.

A young teenage girl who thinks she can change a bad boy and shape him into a prince is living a fairytale. And she may live it for a year or two until she matures enough to understand that the boy she needs, the prince for her, won’t be a bad boy at all.

 By dodgertonSkillhause, 2014, Morguefile.Com

By dodgertonSkillhause, 2014, Morguefile.Com

When my youngest son was in college, there were times when I was more than a little worried about him. He had such great potential, but I felt he was ignoring it for… well… a good time, at least what he thought was a good time.

I decided to do an email campaign. Every other day or so, I sent him two important messages.

The first was the Hail Mary, a prayer of petition to the Blessed Mother. The second was the song in the video below.

The question to him was: are you ready to get real and play in the most important game–the game of life?

Don’t we, too, often play, but not for the reality in our lives?

What is that reality?

We are children of God, created by Him for a specific purpose in this life. Are we ready to discover that purpose? Are we ready to act on that purpose, and give it our best?

The answer to that is very personal to you and me. Only we know what we’re being called to do. But one thing we can be sure of: We ARE being called.

And to hear that call, we must listen carefully. Our call may come slowly in a very subtle way, or it may be loud and challenging–and come suddenly. But when we discover it ourselves, we need to be ready to say to the greatest coach we have in life:  “I’m ready. Put me in the game.”

I am thrilled to say that my son heard the call, and answered the coach. He’s been in the game for quite a while now, and he plays like a pro!

imagesC3L18P5BSince most of have things about ourselves we’d like to change or make better, we’re always planning new beginnings. In our heads, the tape plays, “This Monday, I’m going to start…….”

But if you’re like me, starting something over, or beginning something new, is hard to do. We get very comfortable with our bad habits, don’t we? We know we ought to ‘fix’ them, but we’re a bit wimpy when it comes to actually doing it. I have a set of hand weights I bought nearly twenty years ago—how many times have I used them? Maybe twenty. Yes, I’m that bad!

It’s called procrastination. Here’s a great quote: Procrastination is opportunity’s assassin.– Victor Kiam

People will tell you to “just do it!” But how?

Here are ten things, presented by Marcia Eckerd, Ph.D. on Psychology Today. They’re not instant, she says, but at least helpful:

” 1. Create a deadline you must meet. I set up a meeting that requires me to finish a report and use panic to get me going.
2. It’s common knowledge, but it works – go on your diet or exercise routine with a friend.
3. Break the task into smaller pieces and reward yourself when you actually finish a piece. (Snickers is my reward of choice.) It helps to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
4. Work somewhere outside of home so the usual distractions aren’t there. Or make your work area as distraction-free as possible.
5. Get started even if it’s a gesture. Often, that’s the hump that’s hardest to hurdle.
6. Actually look at your to-do list. Take off anything non-essential, and set a time to start on one thing. The size of the list may scare you away.
7. Talk to yourself, although not out loud if you’re somewhere public. Repeat to yourself: “I have set a priority.” If you feel pulled to do errands or check e-mail, you have set a priority.
8. Organize the bills/papers/supplies you need to do your task. You’re less likely to wander away if you have everything together.
9. Set a time when you must sit down, and don’t allow yourself to do anything else for at least a half hour. You might start out of boredom.
10. Figure out a time to do what you need to do and stick to it. As crazy as it sounds, I lift weights before I go to bed. It’s the only consistent time I can manage.”

Oh, but Dr. Eckerd–you don’t know me!!