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330px-Viktor_Frankl2 (2)Viktor Frankl was an Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist as well as a Holocaust survivor whose concentration camp experiences shaped both his therapeutic approach and philosophical outlook. His life as a concentration camp inmate led him to discover the importance of finding meaning in all forms of existence, even the most sordid ones, and thus, a reason to continue living.

After three years of imprisonment during the Holocaust, he wrote Man’s Search for Meaning

He often said that even within the narrow boundaries of the concentration camps he found only two races of Men to exist: decent men and unprincipled men–and that these were to be found in all classes, ethnicities, and groups. And it stemmed from Attitude.

Here is what he said about Attitude: …Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” Viktor E. Frankl

One definition of attitude is that it’s an expression of favor or disfavor toward a person, place, thing, or event (the attitude object). Prominent psychologists describe attitudes as the most distinctive and indispensable concept in contemporary social psychology. But a deeper look at our attitudes will often expose our personal Character.

Character is what we are when we don’t have an audience–and also, at times, when we do have an audience–because it takes Character to stand up with courage if something  crucially  important needs to be said, or expressed with an action.

Of course,  our attitudes reflect what we think is important, and attitudes can change. What’s important to a teenager is not what’s important to an adult. Some believe that a person’s Character is set and cannot be changed.  Not so.  But what can change  it?

The character of Paul, the apostle, changed dramatically when he surrendered to God. Once he’d been a murderer of those who  believed in Jesus; but his character was re-formed and he  spread the good news of Jesus Christ all over the Gentile world.  How did this happen?

In Paul’s words from First Corinthians: By God’s grace I am what I am, and His grace toward me was not ineffective.

Paul’s new life in Christ is Biblical evidence that the grace of God can change character. And give that person’s character a new meaning.  Haven’t you seen the character of some people change for the better?  Don’t you know of people who have changed the entire meaning of their lives from insignificant to significant?  I know I have.

This change may come after surviving a crisis, through a prompt of Grace that brings about  a personal  re-assessment of our life.   Or it may come during great suffering, when we search for meaning.  Or it may come because God keeps giving you those divine pushes, and all you have to do is go along.

No matter the circumstance, and however it comes, change is always possible.  It’s part of our humanity as children of God, longing to be like Him.

223843043950038248_Ma34ntEIA Streetcar Named Desire, by Tennessee Williams, was made into an award-winning movie many years ago. It is still performed annually as a stage play in New Orleans with many vying for the roles, especially the role of Blanche, an aging, down and out prostitute, still hanging onto her dreams of class and propriety.  One of the movie’s most famous lines is the one by Blanche in this video. “I’ve  always depended on the kindness of strangers.”

As children we were told, “Don’t talk to strangers,” We are careful, and rightly so, to tell our children the same, because a stranger might do them harm.

When we’re adults though, it’s a little different. A kind word to someone, even someone we don’t know–even someone like Blanche, can do a lot of good. Sometimes we see a stranger, and our hearts tell us  they need  encouragement. The compassion within us wants to help, if only with a word, and if only momentarily.

We are a compassionate people. Some work with strangers every day, perhaps as a social worker, an EMT, Emergency room doctors and nurses, Police officers, Priests, Preachers, and Nuns.  But it doesn’t have to be our job. Kindness to strangers is actually what God expects of all of us.

What might happen if each of us gave another person more than just smile or a word of encouragement? What if each of us used our God-given talent or trade to really help a person who needs it? Many do. And many bolster their own spirit in the process.

The following video contains portions of another movie called, The Letter Writer. It’s a Christian film, very enjoyable, and makes the point of kindness, even if it does end a bit unrealistically. The movie is about a winning old man who fills his days with writing letters and notes to strangers. He bolsters a distraught teenager’s sagging spirits and helps her learn to help others.

Listen to the words of his letters. Words like these could very well change a life.